Making an impact through authenticity and curiosity | Ami Vora (CPO at Faire, ex-WhatsApp, FB, IG)

[00:00] Boz, the CTO of Meta, said something about you. Working with Ami, she could have the most profound disagreement in the world and she would respond, fascinating, you have to tell me more, why you think that? I really enjoy being right. And then it turns out in the working world, that did not serve me so great. I think the hard part is sublimating your ego a little bit and saying it's more important to get to the outcome than to be right. I love this very tactical piece of advice. When you're trying to come up with a metaphor or analogy, think about what you want your users to feel when you're using the product. We all agree that the feeling of something should [00:30] sitting in Dolores Park with my friends on a sunny Saturday, then people will just naturally build something that feels more consistent. There's also this metaphor about the hill climb. For me, the hill climb is all about the difference between a local optimum and a global optimum. You're standing on top of the hill, you're looking down, you can see rolling hills, the sheep, the grass, whatever. But then way off in the distance, you can see like a mountain. And the thing that gets me through the valley is remembering what the summit feels like. [01:00] my guest is Ami Vora. Ami is chief product officer at FAIR, which connects independent retailers and brands around the world, and I believe is the most successful and biggest B2B marketplace startup out there. [01:12] Prior to FAIR, AMI was employee 150 at Facebook, [01:16] where she launched the first Facebook developer platform and was later head of product for the $55 billion global Facebook ads business. She also oversaw the introduction of ads on the Instagram platform. And most recently, she led product and design for the largest messaging app in the world, WhatsApp. In our conversation, we cover a lot of ground, including building your strategy skills, how to disagree with people skillfully, being a successful woman in tech, using metaphors and

[01:46] point across, setting up effective goals, plus a bunch of jokes in the lightning round that you don't want to miss. This was a really special and authentic conversation that I'm very excited to bring to you. With that, I bring you Amivora. [02:02] Ami, thank you so much for being here and welcome to the podcast. Oh, thank you. I'm so happy to be here. [02:08] So when I asked you about your goal for our conversation today, you said the most amazing thing, which I love. [02:13] You said that your goal is to be as authentic as possible and to show that people can be pretty messy and imperfect at times. [02:20] yet still be very successful. [02:22] I love that so much. Let's definitely try to do this. [02:25] Is there anything else you wanna add on that? - Yeah, I mean, maybe I'll just say a couple more words on that, actually. I feel like when I was kinda coming up, [02:34] When I looked at people who were successful, they seemed to have everything figured out, especially the women. They were all like super women. Were they like... [02:42] responded to every email in 10 seconds. They didn't seem to sleep. They like always wore high heels. They were just like perfect. [02:49] And I was just like... [02:51] "Oh, I guess I'm never going to be successful." That is not me. I love to sleep. I waste time doing absurd things all the time. I'll tell you how glamorous my lifestyle is. I'm currently working out of my bathroom. I'm talking to you. [03:06] from my bathroom, which is where I work from, [03:09] because I love my house, it's a great house, wasn't meant for [03:12] work from home, three kids, two parents, remote work. It was just the place with the most closing doors between me and my children when the pandemic started. And so it just like took me a while to realize that actually it's all fine. Like, no one's got it fully figured out. You never know how someone else is living. Like,

[03:32] most of us are winging it and learning as we're going and like learning through trial and error and [03:38] that's it's all it's all normal it's all fine and i can do it and you can do it never [03:43] I so love hearing this. This is something people often want to hear more of on this podcast because there's all these stories of here's all these successes, here's all these... [03:50] Things I did and everything just always seems to work out. And we have this failure corner on the podcast where people share story of failure. [03:57] So I love just setting that frame for this conversation of just [04:00] Super being real and [04:02] being clear that there's a lot of [04:04] things that go wrong behind the scenes that people often don't hear about. [04:08] I for a long time felt like I was held back because I like don't have a plan. [04:12] But I realized that probably the most important thing is to just like acknowledge that is true for me. [04:19] that I'm not going to be a person with a plan. And actually the thing that has consistently served me is to like, [04:24] Do this thing that feels right. Go to the place that feels like home. Work with the people who feel like my friends. [04:30] just work where [04:32] when I put on [04:33] the code of the job, I feel like, oh, this is a place where I can really be lucky. I can be creative. I'm in the right spot. As opposed to like... [04:41] you know, feeling like, oh, there's an end state that I know of. [04:45] And I'm just going to have to. [04:46] work my way to that end state [04:49] Whenever I get in that zone of like there's only one outcome and I just have to get there, I like... [04:54] I'm not my best. Not my best. [04:56] You know, I'm not not bringing the creativity and the luck and the excitement in the same way. [05:02] Let me tell you about a product called Sidebar. The best way to level up your career is to surround yourself with extraordinary peers. This gives you more than a leg up, it gives you a leap forward. This worked really well for me in my career, and this is the Sidebar ethos. When you have a trusted group of peers, you can discuss challenges you're having, get career advice, and just gut check how you're thinking about your work, your career, and your life.

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[08:45] You know, we're through the spreadsheets and then, [08:47] tear it up [08:48] Because none of that stuff, like... [08:51] is actually going to determine how good I am at the job. The thing that will determine the thing that happened in my track record, the thing that has determined it, [08:59] is like when I walk through the doors, [09:01] Do I feel like I'm lucky to be there? [09:04] So for me, it's like, [09:06] it's actually a lot more emotional. Like, I try to just put on the coat of the job [09:11] Like when I wake up in the morning, I'm like, what would it be like if I were doing this job? What would I think about on my commute? Who would I have lunch with? Do I like them? Like, what problems am I going to solve today? [09:21] And that gives me like an emotional... [09:24] Response. [09:25] which is just much more telling than like the spreadsheets of here's here's where I'm going to be in five years. [09:31] And for me, the thing that has led me to like the places where I do my best work is a feeling being at home. [09:37] which is all about trust and trust with the people around me. Like, can I walk through and feel like these people are going to have my back? They're going to let me take risks. [09:45] I'm going to enjoy spending time with them. [09:48] And that's where... [09:49] I feel like I've always just been able to try more things and do better because that's a big trust is a big unlock for me. [09:56] I love this metaphor of putting on the coat of the job. [09:59] of just kind of feeling out what it would be to work there. I imagine that was something that you did before you joined FAIR, which I want to talk about. [10:06] But let me transition a bit to talking about meta and specifically [10:10] Boz, the CTO of Meta, was on this podcast a few months ago. [10:14] And he said something about you that I want to read. So kind.

[10:18] Okay, so you've heard what he said about you. Okay, cool. So let me read this and then I want to learn from you how to do this. [10:24] So here's what he said. "Working with Ami, it was like watching an alien, because she could have the most profound disagreement in the world with somebody. [10:32] And they would say something that she thought was not just wrong, but crazy wrong. And she would respond... [10:36] Fascinating. [10:37] You have to tell me more, why you think that? [10:40] And she meant it from the core of her being. She saw this schism and rather than reacting as if it was a threat, [10:45] She reacted with the most genuine and profound curiosity. [10:48] I just watched it absolutely tear down walls between points of view. [10:52] Embracing curiosity in those moments of challenge has completely changed my life. [10:56] And I owe that to Amivora. [10:59] Oh, man, I love Boz. What a great guy. And so kind of him to say that. [11:04] I mean, I will say that this did not come naturally to me. Like, I... [11:10] You know, I really enjoy being right. I love to be right. I think most of us love being right, and at least in my childhood, part of my identity was built on being the person who was right and being the person who knew everything. [11:21] And then it turns out that like in the working world, [11:24] That did not serve me so great. Like it wasn't great to walk into things and be like, [11:30] All y'all are wrong. I am the only answer. Everyone, please listen to me and stop talking. [11:36] And what really happened was that someone pointed out to me, [11:40] that not only, one of my old managers pointed out to me, that not only was I spending a lot of energy [11:46] trying to think through every possible thing by myself so I could be totally right.

[11:51] I was often not really coming to the right answer. [11:54] Like other people have a bunch of information that I do not have. [11:58] And so... [12:00] I'm just ignoring that. Like, I was letting my ego... [12:03] overtake my desire to get to the best outcome, which is just like a that's a that's a silly trade off. Right. And an unnecessary one. [12:11] The thing that changed there is me just saying, it's more important for us to get to the outcome [12:18] And I very selfishly just like to learn more things. And so by like deciding that I already knew everything, I was cutting myself off from like learning the things that other people were really good at. [12:31] And it's so easy to just open the door instead. [12:33] and say like, "Hey, you seem to know something that I don't know yet. [12:37] Why not tell me about it? I'm going to get better. We'll probably come to the right outcome. Maybe you'll have a better time like, [12:43] Why not? [12:44] And so it was a little bit, a little bit just accidental evolution. [12:48] in that direction. But it's made like work in life so much more interesting. [12:53] to just be like, "Hey, what did this person know that I don't know yet?" Like, it means that every meeting you walk into, [12:59] you're probably not going to get bored. [13:01] you know and i get bored a lot but like if you assume that every person there knows something that you don't know [13:06] then it's not like just wait for... [13:09] to get to the right answer, it's like discover the thing that they know that you don't know. And it becomes like, [13:14] just a little bit of uncovering. [13:17] For people that want to learn to be good at this the way you are, a couple things I take away from the story and the way you're talking about this is,

[13:26] One is there's like an enthusiasm of like, I disagree with you, but I want you to know I [13:30] I really care about what you think. [13:32] So there's like an energy of like, please tell me what I'm missing. [13:35] There's also this assumption that like a lot of disagreement is rooted in we just have different information. So tell me what I'm missing. Can you talk a bit about just like how to what you've learned about actually do this well? [13:45] Yeah, I mean, I think the hard part is just like sublimating your ego a little bit. [13:49] and saying it's more important to get to the outcome than to be right. [13:53] And I think like, you know, all of [13:55] growth is a battle with yourself, but this is one of the hardest ones because we all want to be right. We all want to protect ourselves and it served us, many of us, for so long to be right. [14:05] I've started to think about the feedback loop of, [14:08] I kind of think like all of life is feedback loops. So I just started to think about the feedback loop I'm creating of like, [14:14] I was curious about something. [14:16] I learned something new. We got to a better outcome. Probably the other person felt better as well as I felt better. Like it's all positive feedback. [14:25] And you do that a couple of times and the positive feedback far outweighs [14:29] the desire to be right. [14:30] Because now we're like, we're more right. We're more right together. [14:33] And so just building that as a practice of just noticing how much better things can get. [14:39] when you can be open to them has been really fun. [14:43] What do you think of this phrase that he used that he remembers? Is that like a phrase that you find useful? Just like fascinating. You have to tell me more. I think that. [14:50] I do think that is a word that I say a lot. I do say that a lot. Because it is, it's true. It's just like,

[14:56] It's forcing us out to look at the same... [14:59] movie that I was looking at and come away with a totally different understanding of the plot. [15:04] you know like i could sit in a state in the same meeting as other people [15:09] and they would leave with just a different [15:11] retelling of what happened. And that to me is fascinating. [15:15] You know, like, [15:17] Isn't that surprising that we can all see the same, what we think are the same facts and walk away with a totally different narrative? [15:24] And when you really go deep into that, you just understand how people see the world. [15:28] And that is helpful. I just I just [15:30] I'm like curious about things. I like to know more things. And so that just helps me know more things. [15:36] I feel like the hardest part of this for people is like you hear someone say something [15:40] Like say, okay, so our mutual friend Dan Hockenmeyer, he's in a meeting and he just says something [15:44] that you were just like, "No, because he's got influence. He's a big deal, if fair." [15:49] Most people have this visceral reaction of like, oh, no, I really don't think that's a good idea. Is there something you've learned about controlling that bodily reaction of like, oh, no. [15:59] and then just being positive about it. [16:00] Yeah, I do think it is just that feedback loop. Like, it's not like I don't have the visceral reaction. It's just that instead of interpreting it as... [16:08] this is a visceral reaction, I gotta like shut something down. It's like, [16:13] This is a visceral reaction, and it's a chance to learn more. [16:17] Like just reinterpreting some of the feelings in ways that are like more about opening than about closing stuff down. [16:23] Got it. So it's kind of like a thinking you do of like, okay, hey, let me frame this and think about this. For me, the most important thing is just taking a pause.

[16:30] I think when you just take a pause, [16:33] Your body calms down. [16:35] Your mind gets a chance to breathe a little bit and then your response is going to be better. [16:39] But like, you got to take the pause because the immediate visceral reaction, you know, is not always it's going to be primal. It's going to be like protective. [16:47] It's just when you take a pause, you're like... [16:49] This is all fine. Like, let's just learn. Yeah. [16:52] I feel like... [16:53] More people are going to start using this phrase "fascinating" when they hear something they disagree with. It's kind of a tagline. There were a few years where I had to be careful about not saying it, because whenever I said it, people would be like, "She disagrees." [17:07] I'm about to use the thesaurus and expand my words I use. That's such a good word. [17:13] Maybe we'll make that the title of this episode. What a great title that would be. [17:17] So we've been talking a bit about the bodily reaction to stuff and our lizard brain almost reacting to things. [17:23] It reminds me of this metaphor that you call the dinosaur brain. [17:28] and how it applies to product reviews, and talk about what that is. [17:31] Okay, so a lot of people on my team, you know, they're, they're coming in to do product reviews, and they're worried about it, their life stressed out, they don't exactly know what to show. [17:39] And the normal temptation is just to show as much information as possible, because that way, like, you come in and you think, hey, like, the people in this room are super smart. [17:48] I'll show them the information. They will come to the right conclusions. They'll probably make a better decision than I'm going to make. So like my job is to like, [17:56] catalog the information and present it. [17:58] And one of the first things that I talk to people about is like,

[18:02] Okay, for the purposes of this conversation, I'm going to put myself in the capitally executive bucket. [18:09] because that makes what I'm about to say less offensive. [18:11] Like assume that like executives, [18:15] have like a little tiny dinosaur brain. Like we all have like a little brontosaurus brain. [18:20] And we can really only hold like three facts at the same time. [18:25] We will never be able to go deep in the way [18:28] that you are able to do on everything that crosses our desk. [18:32] And so the best service you can do is actually do the work of making a recommendation. That's the way we're going to be complimentary, you know, like. [18:42] the breadth that I normally have to look across, like, means that I'm going to be better at things like pattern matching, or giving you more context, or telling you stuff that's happening in the company or the industry. [18:53] But what I'm not going to be better at [18:55] is like looking at all the information that you looked at [18:58] and coming up with a meaningful outcome like [19:01] That's what you're going to do. [19:03] And my little dinosaur brain is going to be like, OK, that sounds like a very reasonable pattern. I've seen other patterns that look like this. OK, that sounds like an outcome. However, it conflicts with this outcome over here. I can tell you about that. [19:15] Does that make sense? Yeah. And I love that you put yourself in that bucket. Like you have a dinosaur brain also. [19:21] It's pretty bad, bad look, but it's really true. You know, like as you get more breath, [19:26] you are less and less able to go deep on everything that deserves going deep. [19:30] And you just end up doing a different service than the people on your teams. And recognizing that as complimentary has been really helpful.

[19:37] You have this phrase, "My manager owns context, I own the recommendation," kind of along the same lines. Exactly. Very similar. And I think the thing that was helpful for me there is that really unlocked what I was looking for from my managers. [19:49] Because otherwise I wanted them [19:51] to be exactly like me. You know, if I assume that I need to bring them information and then they would come to the same conclusion that I would come to, [19:59] That's very narrow, you know, like they have to be able to look at the exact same information and process it in the same way and come out with the same. [20:06] idea. [20:07] Whereas if what they're doing is like complimentary to me, [20:10] Then I can learn from everyone. [20:12] You know, like they're going to just have a different view. They're going to have new information that I don't have. [20:17] And it gives me a lot more space to take accountability. [20:20] Is there any other advice you could share along these lines of just like product reviews? So kind of the big takeaway here is just keep it simple. [20:27] and [20:28] have a recommendation. [20:29] Keep it simple, have a recommendation. I also think that, like... [20:34] I think we misuse product reviews sometimes as ways to get decisions. [20:39] And actually, they should be ways to calibrate on principles. [20:42] So like what you don't want is to come to a product review for like every single decision that you want to make. [20:49] Instead, what you want is to come to a product review with one decision. [20:52] But the goal of that decision is to walk out with principles about how to make these decisions in the future so you don't have to come to product review, but you still have this like consistent and coherent product that you're building. [21:04] And so I think when you flip the frame of reviews, [21:07] to being less about, okay, I'm going to bring this information to an exec, my manager, whoever, and they're going to decide every piece.

[21:14] like you're not actually building that much more capacity in the system. You're like getting fast decision making, but you're not [21:21] you're not changing who can make really good decisions. [21:25] And I think you always want to change the org to constantly make better decisions. And a way to do that is when you bring... [21:31] these sorts of questions, [21:33] what you talk about is like, why did you make this decision? Like, what are the trade offs you have in mind? Who are you optimizing for? What timeline are you thinking about? What's the risk level we're willing to tolerate? [21:45] And then you don't have to come back. Like you just you have enough information that you can take those principles and run with them. [21:51] Is there kind of a framework or a process you use for product reviews that might be helpful for people to hear just like a... [21:57] agenda or a way of thinking about just how to set up a product review for success because a lot of people are [22:01] trying to set these up at their companies and they're like, I don't know if we're doing this optimally. Yeah, I think everyone's got, I think there's so many like different takes on frameworks, [22:09] I don't have a single system. I mean, actually, I think Boz has written about a bunch of this, and I probably most agree with him. [22:16] where there's different kinds of product reviews. It's like, what are you trying to solve? What's the timeline on which you're thinking about for these? Is it like a philosophy? Is it a strategic shift? Is it like a day to day product decision? [22:28] and then keeping it extremely short and pointed [22:32] And then making sure you walk away with principles, not answers. I think there's a lot of nuance and important [22:38] there of what you just said, which is start with the problem you're solving. Like, what are we trying to do here? [22:42] and the timeline, I think that's also really useful and important for people to hear. I think the temptation is always to err toward like writing more,

[22:49] And what I always really recommend people do is write whatever you need to write and then cut out almost all of it. [22:56] what you really want to bring to any forum, whether it's like a product review or written in form or anything else is like, [23:04] the minimal amount of information that you need to make a clean recommendation. [23:09] Because then you are forced to be opinionated. [23:12] Like otherwise the opinion can get lost in all of this information. You can hide. [23:17] behind what all of these analyses seem to suggest. [23:21] And instead, you should probably just say, [23:24] looked at all the data. There's three pieces, there's three analyses that suggest this. There's one that suggests that we think that one is inaccurate or worth taking the risk on. [23:32] Let's go. Any objections, let me know. Any new context, let me know. [23:37] that really forces you to like deeply understand and take an opinion on the material. [23:43] Final question, who do you like to invite to these [23:46] Product reviews. [23:47] Any of your thoughts, rules, policy... [23:50] Yeah, I mean, I do think that usually fewer people is better. [23:54] It leads to a sense of being informal, [23:58] And that is really useful because it lowers the bar on how... [24:02] complete or strong these conversations are and I'd rather have like a less formal conversation faster than a formal conversation. [24:10] and lose three weeks in the process when we could have been building. [24:13] I think it needs to be cross-functional. I think one of the things you want is cross-functional accountability. [24:18] So we want it cross-functional at the leadership level and cross-functional at the team presenting level.

[24:23] And I think those are normally the groups. I think the thing that gets hard is you often cut out the middle. [24:28] where like if it's a working team presenting to like the senior leaders on something important, [24:35] It's really hard because it means people's managers are not in the room and can't help the conversation or other things. [24:42] And so in order to do that, you have to really have a bunch of implicit trust [24:46] inside the team. [24:48] that [24:49] Everyone will get the context later that [24:52] everyone's going to be kind to everyone else and you don't need like a ton of air cover and the managers trust their team to like present in the best possible way. [25:01] That is always a stressful place for a manager to be where their success is kind of riding in that meeting and they're not there. It's so stressful. It's so stressful. I think anything you need to make it less stressful is useful. [25:13] - And there have also been times in my career where I would keep the room itself small, but because we were all trying to calibrate on specific principles, [25:20] I would like record or broadcast. [25:23] the reading to anyone who wanted [25:25] to see it just so they could all see the principles by which we were decision making and get calibrated on that. [25:31] So through your career, you've kind of transitioned from being the person pitching [25:35] products and being reviewed to the person reviewing the [25:40] and being on the other side. [25:41] Is there anything being on this side of it that you think is helpful for people to [25:46] earlier in their career to know [25:48] about that experience [25:49] of [25:50] You know. [25:51] from your angle now.

[25:53] I mean, I think for what it's worth, I think I still do a fair amount of product pitching in the past few years. There's always someone else to convince. It's true. [26:00] especially if you want to do something dramatically different. [26:03] Really, I think the biggest service for people who are starting out a little earlier is that point around like... [26:11] bringing the recommendation. [26:13] like really having the opinion [26:16] and standing behind it with conviction and doing what they need to do to build that conviction for themselves. [26:21] Awesome. [26:22] You've done this a number of times already in this conversation, and so I want to spend a little time here, which is using metaphors and imagery. [26:28] to make your point and get people to understand what you're trying to say. So if you have this code of... [26:34] putting on the coat of the job in this dinosaur brain [26:37] And so someone told me that this is just a skill you have, where you use metaphor and imagery to rally a team, [26:42] Get your point across, get people to understand what you're trying to say. [26:45] There's also this metaphor, someone told me I need to ask you about the hill climb. [26:49] metaphor. [26:51] Does that ring a bell? [26:52] Yeah. Okay. What is that all about? For me, the hill climb is all about like the difference between a local optimum and a global optimum. [27:01] And so that sounds very abstract, but I think like a lot of the time when we're [27:05] doing our job when we're doing life stuff, whatever you're doing, like you try to just get better and better and you like optimize your current system and you feel really good about it. [27:14] And that is great. You're standing on top of the hill, you're looking down, you can see, you know, [27:18] the, I don't know, rolling hills, the sheep, the grass, whatever. [27:22] But then, way off in the distance,

[27:24] you can see like a mountain. [27:27] you know, one that's even higher. [27:29] then you can't even see the top of it. Right. [27:32] And you have to decide. [27:34] "Are you gonna take the risk [27:36] of [27:37] climbing down your hill, [27:39] crossing like an unknown chasm [27:42] and then climbing back up just to get to the same level you started at [27:46] with more climbing to do to get to that summit. [27:49] And that is really hard. I'm thinking of things like, you know, maybe the first time I saw this was like, [27:54] A lot of companies were really good at desktop. [27:56] And you could see the mobile mountain like way out over there. [28:00] But to get there, [28:02] you had to really [28:05] and make a lot of trade-offs in your core desktop business that you were not totally sure were going to pay off when you made it to the mobile mountain. And you had to do a ton of work. You had to fundamentally rewire [28:16] a lot of what you're doing without a guarantee that you're going to get there. [28:19] I mean, you can see it in life when you think about new jobs or new moves or... [28:24] new relationships like kind of anything that you think about like you kind of are giving up something that is working pretty well [28:31] without knowing whether you're gonna make it to the top of that next mountain. [28:35] And that's been really helpful to me just to kind of place [28:39] where I am, [28:40] on different things. [28:41] where, you know, you can like you get the inkling that there is a much better way to do this. [28:47] There really is. Is it going to be worse? [28:50] going down into the valley, climbing up, keeping climbing. Is that going to be worth it?

[28:55] Most of the time the answer is yes, but it's helpful for me to know, boy, this feels like a slog. It is supposed to, because I'm still in the valley. [29:03] And the thing that gets me through the valley is remembering what the summit feels like. [29:07] when you're on top of it and you're like, [29:10] This is great. It was absolutely worth it. [29:12] My life is better in these ways. We're able to solve these problems in these ways. [29:17] It was worth it. [29:18] I love that. It feels like a big value of this metaphor. [29:22] which I love is that to set expectations is going to be really hard for a little bit or we [29:27] We'll slow down what we're trying to do now. But the idea is there's a bigger hill and a bigger mountain. There's a bigger hill and it's worth it. [29:34] On this kind of broader idea of metaphors and imagery, is there something there that you've learned of just like this works really well, I'm going to invest in becoming better at this? Or is this something that's come natural to you? Anything you can share about that skill? [29:45] approach. [29:46] I think this one came from, I worked for a manager, his name was Eric Antoneau, [29:51] And he was just a master of [29:54] the metaphor analogies. [29:56] And so whenever I bring him something, he would be like, how is this product [30:00] going to make you feel. [30:02] When is the last time that you felt this way? [30:05] And you can say, oh, you know, I felt this way when I was hanging with my friends in Dolores Park. And you're like, cool. Tell me... [30:11] what it feels like, why that's the analogy, like what ramifications come out of that. [30:18] And one thing I like to do is try to build, like, [30:20] an emulator for different people in my head because i've just had the good fortune of working with like

[30:27] an amazing number of very different leaders. [30:30] And so he's one of the people I tried to build an emulator for where I'd be like, okay, I see this thing. I don't know how to solve this problem. [30:36] What would, how would Eric describe this? You know, like I've tried to build one for Boz, which is all about like principled decision-making and principled trade-offs. Like there's a few other people where I'm like, [30:47] I don't know how to solve this problem. Can I load this other person? [30:50] into my head and how would they approach it. And that gives me like a fresh lens on it. [30:55] And I really like metaphors and analogies because like I think especially as you scale a team, [31:00] narrative becomes increasingly important. Like narrative can carry [31:05] so much weight and water, where otherwise, it's kind of similar to the product review point where [31:11] Either you can tell everybody exactly what to do at every point, [31:16] or you can create a story that we all agree on, [31:19] And when we all agree on that story, people just know better what to do. Like if we all agree that the feeling of something should be [31:27] I'm sitting in Dolores Park with my friends. [31:29] on a sunny Saturday. [31:31] You know what the iconography, like the designers know what iconography should look like. [31:37] you know what the communication and join pattern should look like. You're not going to build something cold and corporate. You're not going to build something strobe light. You're not going to build something flashy. [31:46] But you don't have to go and make all those individual decisions that [31:49] you can kind of buy into the same story. [31:51] And then people will just naturally build something that feels more consistent. [31:55] This is such a powerful and important

[31:58] skill. Is there an example that comes to mind where you did this really well, say it, WhatsApp or Facebook, kind of the story that carried a lot of water for you and the team? [32:08] Yeah, I mean, I think the prime metaphor we kind of arrived at for WhatsApp was face-to-face communication. [32:14] You know? [32:15] Our goal there was... [32:18] To make it so that every person in the world could feel connected to the people they cared most about, [32:24] even when they were [32:26] separate, even they're distant geographically for... [32:30] whatever reason, you know, we are always going to be apart from the people you care about. [32:34] And we really had to build something that would work for literally everyone in the world, like people who are carrying these high end devices. [32:40] in Western markets who are very [32:43] tech comfortable and savvy. [32:45] And people in the low end markets who [32:47] were carrying these low-end devices. They weren't that familiar with technology. It was maybe their first time online. [32:54] We had to build something that worked for everyone. [32:56] And the most universal form of communication is face-to-face. Like when you talk to someone face-to-face, you're not thinking like, [33:02] How do I present? Like, what tool do I have to learn? You just kind of open your mouth and words come out. [33:08] And that's the feeling that we wanted to create. [33:11] And that involved a lot of like the app [33:13] stepping back from communication, creating spaces that felt really intimate, [33:19] So people wouldn't have to think to themselves, what kind of space am I in? They could immediately map. [33:24] where they were in the app to the kind of the, okay, I'm sitting around in my kitchen table,

[33:28] and people are joining and leaving calls. [33:31] You know, just like they're walking in and out of my living room. [33:33] But... [33:34] It is a family space and the family is there. [33:38] Or in like, you know, one on one disappearing messages, you're like, cool, this is my close friend. We don't need to keep track of everything that we're saying. [33:44] We're here. [33:45] for a little bit of banter, a little bit of relationship, a little bit of like quick, what's your Wi-Fi password stuff. [33:51] And whatever is really... [33:52] important, that's what we'll hold on to. And the rest is just like day to day. [33:56] normal intimacy. [33:58] That is super interesting. Like, WhatsApp, the whole... [34:01] One of the main differentiators and benefits is super fast. [34:04] And I see completely how it connects this idea of you're just like, the idea is we want you to feel like you're talking to someone. And it's all a really small thing. It's like a typing indicator is like, [34:12] Someone who's about to take a breath, give them something to talk. You know, like the two... [34:16] check marks lining up or like someone's face lining up when they hear you, you know, it's just a recognition of being heard. These are all super small things, but I think they add up to a feeling. [34:27] of being there. [34:29] That is super interesting. So I love this very tactical piece of advice you just shared of just when you're trying to come up with a metaphor or analogy, think about what you want your users to feel when you're using the product. [34:39] And when else have they felt that same feeling? [34:42] So interesting. [34:44] And then this other point you made of making this emulator of a person in your head. I mean, it sounds a little wild now that I think about it. It sounds robotic. It makes total sense. It's another way... [34:54] I get very bored a lot. It's another way to make sure meetings are really interesting where you're like,

[34:59] "Okay, let me see what that person is going to say next. Like, let me put myself in their shoes. Let me think about what they're reacting to. [35:06] and why they're going to think that and how they're going to see the world [35:10] And again, it just gives me more toolkits. [35:12] Because it means when I'm stumped on something, I can be like, [35:15] What would Rob Goldman say? He'd say, look at the dashboard. Have I looked at the dashboard? No. Okay, let me go look at the dashboard. You know, like you can kind of load up these different. [35:23] skill sets that people [35:25] you know, have been so generous with sharing with me. [35:28] What would be the AMI emulator? What are people thinking when they loaded it? [35:32] That's it. That's it. [35:34] Probably the number one, no joke. [35:37] Is there an emulator you most often come back to that you find most useful in your day-to-day? Who's the person that... [35:44] Like, oh yeah. - I think those are the three. I think it is like, [35:48] And she knows like story stories. [35:50] story, metaphor, analogy, creation. I think it's like Boz's [35:54] If we played this out, what principles are we using? And if we kept on using those principles, what would happen? [36:01] And it is... [36:02] Rob Goldman, who's an amazing kind of [36:05] metrics. [36:07] growth product leader being like, look at the dashboard. I mean, look at the dashboard, which is like a great like central rooting part of my life. This is so fascinating. Fascinating. [36:17] It revs up. [36:20] I love this topic of just metaphors and stories and visions and things like that. It's something a lot of people want to get better at. Is there another example per chance? [36:29] that you could share of maybe using a metaphor to

[36:32] Rally team, get things done. [36:34] I mean, I think taking like a subpart of... [36:37] WhatsApp or when we talk about video calling. And usually one of the metaphors was like sitting around in your family room when you think about how to make calls work. [36:46] Where when you're sitting in a family, you're not scheduling it. [36:49] You're not like... [36:50] I don't know, having this cold corporate... [36:53] feeling the way you do with like a conference call or there's like kind of heavyweight interactions. [36:58] And instead, there's just [37:00] you can join and leave. You know, like it feels [37:03] lightweight, it feels like the space exists even when you're not there. [37:07] And so just creating things like joinable calls, like that feeling of people kind of popping in and just paying attention to whoever's there and letting them leave, but the call can flow on without a super heavyweight action that everyone needs to take. [37:20] I think that was another one where we... [37:22] We're just able to... [37:23] to kind of agree on the feeling, and then you kind of know what to build. [37:27] I was just using WhatsApp to do a video call with my mom. They were traveling to Italy. [37:30] And so that's exactly it. Yeah, it felt great. Let me go in a slightly different direction. One of my favorite posts of yours is called "Execution beats strategy every time." [37:42] And I think another way to phrase it is execution eats strategy for breakfast. [37:46] I think you put that somewhere. I'd love to hear about this because I completely agree. I think a lot of people are obsessed with strategy and vision and got to get this right. And, [37:53] forget that most of the work is... [37:55] Execution. So yeah, I'd love to hear just your take. [37:57] and insight here. [37:58] Yeah, I don't know if I coined execution eat strategy for breakfast. I think a lot of things eat other things for breakfast, but I'm a believer. Like, I do think execution eat strategy for breakfast. And that's something we used to say a lot at Meta. Like, that was, it was just the most important thing.

[38:12] part. And I was well framed in that. That was like one of the key lessons that I learned there. [38:18] And it's because when you have... [38:20] Look, strategy is super fun. You get to think about all this pie in the sky stuff. You get to think about if the world operated in rational patterns and you could predict the future, what is going to be the second and third order effect? You get to use your brain in a really fun way. [38:35] philosophical way. [38:36] But like customers don't care. [38:38] Like customers don't care about your fancy strategies and like your five year plan. They care about the product that's in their hands. [38:46] And so anything that [38:48] Uh... [38:49] distracts you from thinking about the product in your hands, I think [38:53] Or maybe worse, takes you away from... [38:57] from solving customers' problems. [39:00] today, I think [39:01] It is a distraction. [39:03] And I think one of the things that you learn is like, [39:05] If you have great strategy, perfect strategy, [39:09] But poor execution. [39:11] You don't win. [39:12] Because your strategy never makes it to the market. [39:15] And what's even worse is that you have learned nothing. [39:17] You don't know whether it was your strategy that was wrong or whether it was your execution that was wrong. All you know is you didn't win. [39:22] Whereas when you have like [39:24] a pretty good strategy, a good enough strategy, you're in the right direction. [39:28] and you have perfect execution. [39:30] you still don't win immediately. [39:32] but you know your execution was great, [39:34] So then you learn... [39:36] What do you need to do to improve your strategy? You've got the execution machine. You go back, you update your strategy, you relaunch. [39:42] and you keep on doing it,

[39:43] until your strategy is perfect. [39:45] And then you do it. [39:47] And that's kind of the lesson I repeatedly learned. [39:50] And is this advice kind of a reaction to what you said where people, PMs, let's say, [39:54] are just like, "I want to work on strategy. We got to spend all this time to get the strategy nailed." [39:58] And it's just like, okay, we also need to execute. And that's maybe even more important. Yeah, I do think it's very glamorous to work on strategy. It's so fun. [40:08] you want it's so fun to have the word strategy in your tent it's i don't know we've like built a mythology [40:13] around strategy being the most important thing. An execution is not glamorous. It is not like, [40:19] whiteboarding by yourself, you know, and pointing to things and like coming out with the grand vision. It is like the nuts and bolts and like, [40:29] sometimes kind of boring, sometimes kind of like grinded out work of like, [40:34] You gotta bring the donuts, you gotta look at the dashboards, you gotta rewrite the spec, you gotta just do a bunch of the grinding. [40:41] But that is what leads to the customer's outcomes. That is what the customer is eventually going to feel. They're never going to see the whiteboard. [40:49] they're going to see that someone took the time to fix this bug. [40:53] This episode is brought to you by User Testing. Transform how you build products and experiences with user testing. Get fast feedback throughout the development process so that you can build the right thing the first time. Make better decisions that lead to better business outcomes. Companies are being asked to do more with less. They need to move quickly to build experiences that meet changing customer expectations and do so faster than ever, all while minimizing risk and costly rework.

[41:22] With UserTesting, you have a trusted partner in experience research. They empower user research, product, and design teams to make higher confidence decisions with human insights. Learn more today at usertesting.com slash Lenny. [41:39] Is this advice you give to your PMs on your teams? Like, is this a kind... I guess, how do you think about this when... [41:45] They're trying to move up the ranks, become better product managers. This is just a common thing that you often share. Strategy is going to be important. You've got to get good at it. [41:55] Also, make sure this is going great. [41:57] - Yeah, I do think, I think about it a little bit in terms of like proportion of time you should expect to spend. [42:02] So, I mean, there's no point next to you on a bad strategy. You can't have a bad strategy. [42:07] So you should spend some time, maybe it's like 20% of your time. [42:10] But the bulk of your time should be like... [42:13] confirming that strategy actually makes sense for the customers, getting it out there, building the machine to constantly make it better. [42:19] as opposed to a perfect strategy, you go away, you build it for a year, you ship it, [42:24] the market has changed. You know, customers have changed, their needs have changed, competitions, like just the whole landscape has changed. [42:31] And you probably could have solved those problems [42:34] more easily had you headed in the right direction but done it with more ongoing customer feedback. [42:39] In terms of this proportion, I imagine... [42:41] What you see is as you get more senior, more of your time spent on strategy, less time on execution, right? [42:46] I don't 100% know that that's true. [42:49] I think, again, even at high levels, maybe the...

[42:54] the strategic directions become more important to get like mostly right. [42:59] But I think still most of your time is making sure they can make it to market. [43:03] You know, like, [43:05] I think [43:06] you should still be spending your time understanding what's slowing people down and unblocking it, understanding like how is the market changing, understanding what the broad customer feedback is, like just constantly improving [43:17] the system that you are building, I think that's [43:21] I mean, how... [43:22] How much time can you spend thinking about the future as opposed to like actually trying to create it? [43:29] That is really interesting advice because I think most people imagine as you get more senior. [43:32] I'm going to have more time thinking about vision and strategy. [43:35] not have to be in the weeds building things. And I love this point you're making of [43:39] Even as a senior exec, you're still like, it's executing in a different way, but it's still execution. - In a different way, yeah. You're focusing on the execution of the system a little bit more. [43:48] But [43:49] you know, [43:50] You got to stay connected, I think, to the customer and to what you're bringing to them. [43:54] I love that. [43:55] Obviously strategy is also very important. [43:57] You have this great quote that I'm going to read here. For strategy to be useful, it actually has to change our behavior as a team to create better customer outcomes. [44:05] Can you talk about that? [44:08] Yeah, I mean, I think, again, like, some of the joy of strategy is, like, the... [44:12] philosophy and excitement of [44:14] thinking about all the long-term stuff that will happen. [44:17] But [44:18] I try to always come back to... [44:21] what's going to change for the customer if we have all of these conversations and we come out with a shiny five-year plan but then we change nothing

[44:28] about the products that we're building or how we are building. [44:32] what was the point of that exercise? Like it made us feel good within, there's something to making us feel good. That is good. Like it's, [44:38] important for teams to to feel good and connected and this is like a good exercise for that [44:43] But it's so much more powerful when it's an exercise that translates into us doing something differently. [44:49] Whether that's prioritizing different products, whether that's changing our portfolio allocation, like moving people to the things we think are most important now versus things that are going to be less important right now, like. [45:00] What's the change? Or like coming out with a strategy that will align people because we have the story, we have the narrative, we have the sequence. [45:07] what's going to change for our customers as a result of this strategy exercise. [45:11] Many people want to get better at strategy. Often their performance feedback is "become more strategic, think better about strategy." [45:18] What has helped you become a better strategic thinker? Is it just doing it? Is it a person that influenced you heavily? Is it a book? [45:26] What has helped you and what do you often recommend to people to get better at this skill? [45:30] I think I got that same feedback quite a lot, actually. [45:34] of needing to kind of think bigger [45:36] and be more visionary. [45:38] etc. And I still do, frankly. Actually, there's moments where I retrench way too far into, like, execution and, like, [45:44] worry a little less about long term strategy. [45:47] So it's definitely like my bias still. [45:49] The biggest thing that held me back from talking about strategy was... [45:52] I didn't feel confident [45:54] that I knew enough [45:56] to like, [45:57] declare a strategy. It was actually like almost like a self-confidence

[46:01] imposter syndrome thing. [46:03] Were there people who could just say, I know how the world is going to develop? [46:06] in the next five years and let me tell you here's where we're going to be like this is the dot on the map [46:12] And I was always like, how could you? No. Anything could happen. Who would I be? [46:17] to say, I know how the world's going to develop and here's here's where we're heading. [46:21] And so for me, a lot of it was actually... [46:24] Learning the things that made me feel confident in my own opinion. [46:29] And there's like a bunch of things that do make me feel confident, in my opinion. When I talk to specific customers and I feel like I can build [46:35] an emulator for them, like a customer on my shoulder, where I can say, [46:39] "Oh, I talked to this person working in this job. Here's what they would say if I showed them this product or this strategy." [46:45] So I think talking to customers is a big unlock for me and feeling like I have unique knowledge of the customer. [46:51] I think working through [46:53] different like product iterations [46:57] of if we thought this was the right outcome what would it really look like from a product perspective or a product portfolio [47:03] in three to five years and which of those like seems [47:06] right or rational or like it will will go the way I think the world goes. [47:11] I think asking for other opinions, like sometimes I run like surveys to the leadership team where I'm just like, [47:18] How do you think, you know, what percentage of our revenue is going to come from small businesses versus big businesses in three years? You know, and if we all agree on that topic, we just take it as the truth. [47:28] and we should just build it. If we disagree, [47:30] Then we should talk about it. We should talk about the strategic ramifications if we chose one path or the other path.

[47:35] So for me, it was... [47:37] Getting more comfortable having an opinion, honestly, about how the world was going to go and [47:43] also feeling comfortable that we would be able to change it. [47:47] when we learned [47:48] that like maybe that wasn't exactly right. Like we would have the machine, the execution machine behind it, [47:54] to try it out and then [47:56] change and iterate and improve with customer feedback. [48:00] At which point in your career was this kind of overcoming this fear and uncertainty? Was it some time within Facebook? [48:07] It was sometime when Facebook... It was really when I was stepping into like... [48:11] the bigger ads jobs, like getting to be head of product for Facebook ads. [48:16] I got feedback, I got a lot of feedback over the course of my career, and some of the stacking of feedback was basically like, [48:28] You could be the smartest person in the room, but it doesn't matter if people don't like you. [48:32] Which I don't, which is very complicated feedback, and I don't [48:36] I wouldn't give that feedback to anyone else. [48:41] But I took it very seriously. It was coming from so many different places. It was coming from people I really trusted. [48:47] And so I kind of went out of my way [48:51] to be more likable [48:53] which for me ended up being like, [48:55] Ugh. [48:57] shrinking myself a little bit [49:00] and not being so aggressive, not being so opinionated. [49:04] kind of being more unobjectionable.

[49:07] And the weird part is that it kind of worked for a long time. Like people who were more likely to work with me, they were more likely to say nice things. I mean, I take this to extremes. I wore earth tones for like two years because I was just like, I got to fade back a little bit. [49:22] And then, you know, at some point, I actually had to do a leadership job, and my team was like, "Well, what do you think? What's your opinion?" And I was like, [49:31] "You've been telling me not to have an opinion for so long." And so it took a little bit of work to get back to [49:38] Oh, yeah, like I can have I have a lot of opinions. I have a lot of thoughts. It is OK for me to express it is needed. [49:45] My team needs me to have these opinions and thoughts and be a leader. [49:49] who can like take ownership and be visible. [49:51] Mm. [49:52] Thanks for sharing that. [49:55] Do you think that was the right approach? [49:56] going and kind of indexing far to the other end and then kind of realizing that maybe that's too far? Or do you think you would have done things differently looking back? [50:05] Yeah, it's kind of one of my Roman empires. I think about this every so often, like way too much, I think. [50:13] Especially because I talked to other senior women who received similar feedback and chose not to act on it or did act on it and like, you know, what happened to their paths were different. [50:24] I think where I landed is like, I wouldn't give that feedback to someone else. [50:28] And the way I do give that feedback, actually, because I think there is a lot of really useful [50:33] information. [50:35] In that, the way I do give that feedback is you do need to be able to work with a broader range of people. And the way to do that is to expand your tool sets.

[50:45] Like you're not going to make yourself smaller. You're not going to be any less of who you are. [50:49] but you are going to build new tools [50:52] so that you can you know new keys to unlock new different kinds of doors [50:57] And that is only going to make you bigger and more powerful and more expensive. [51:02] But the end outcome is the same, is that you can work with more different styles of people, more different styles of problems. I love that framing. [51:10] There's an episode that's going to come out before this episode with this professor from Stanford, Jeffrey Pfeffer. [51:15] who teaches a class called The Path to Power. [51:17] which is like how to become powerful in the world. [51:20] And he actually has a big [51:22] lesson that many people hate hearing, which is [51:24] You don't actually, you don't need to be authentic in the workplace. [51:28] that [51:29] what you're trying to achieve, you're trying to achieve stuff and you can [51:32] You need to use tools that you need to use to achieve the thing you want to achieve. [51:37] don't be exactly who you are and act in a slightly different way, which is basically what you're describing. [51:42] More tools. [51:43] I think that's a theme that's coming up. It's just like, I'm all about more lenses, more keys, more tools in general. [51:49] Because why not? Like, why not have access to more different styles of things? [51:54] Something that you're kind of like talking about earlier. [51:57] subtly is being a woman in tech and being a female leader. [52:01] I imagine you've gone through some stuff that isn't something men would have gone through. [52:06] Is there anything there that you want to share or anything you've learned about just... [52:10] being really successful as a woman in tech. [52:13] I think we've talked through some of them. I think like

[52:15] one, you get a different style of feedback. And a lot of the ways to interpret that feedback, I think to this day, [52:22] I get feedback that is about walking a very narrow tightrope. [52:26] where not only do you have to [52:29] change a bunch of things and do a bunch of things that are important. You have to make people feel a certain way about how you do that. [52:37] And the ways that they want to make you feel are like diametrically opposite. Some people are going to be like, be more directive. [52:43] So that way everyone knows your thing. Some people are going to say be less directive. So [52:47] People can come to their own conclusions. Some people are going to say, move faster, because there's always more you can do. Some people are going to say, move less fast, because otherwise you're going to end up sterling people. [52:57] And a lot of it is kind of personal. Like there's a bunch of research about how women get a lot more personal feedback, but it's less about, [53:03] the content of their role and more about their style. [53:06] I think that is still true. [53:07] And there's often a kernel of truth in it. You know, for me, this is forever work like I do. [53:12] have biases toward execution and being directive and things like that. But I think learning how to interpret and respond to feedback is, [53:21] has been a really important point for me and making my choices of [53:27] Just because I'm getting feedback doesn't mean I immediately need to respond to all of it. [53:33] There is a there's a step in between. [53:36] where I can choose... [53:38] Is this feedback I want to [53:40] take action on, [53:42] in this exact way? Am I going to like look for more themes, take action in a different way? Or am I going to say this is who I am?

[53:49] and I understand the trade-offs, I want to do a better job of giving people context [53:53] on the decisions I'm making and why I'm choosing these trade-offs, [53:57] But actually, this is like part of how I want to operate and I'm going to keep on writing. [54:01] And then I think we just like give women weird like here's a hot take. [54:05] I think we tell women... [54:07] Things like you need to find a mentor and you need to find a sponsor. [54:11] And that's just another set of hoops that we... [54:15] we have, that we tell women to jump through, that I don't think we tell other parts of population to jump through. Like, I think we tell women, [54:24] you know, to unlock your future success, you've got to find somebody [54:27] who has made all the same life decisions you have and who you look up to and relate to, but also had an hour every month to like be an oracle to tell you all the things you do in your life. [54:40] it feels like yet another burden, where you're like, I don't know how to do that. I had, [54:47] the extreme generosity of so many wonderful leaders who helped me on my way. But I didn't feel like I had this mentor. And for a while, it was just like, [54:55] Oh, man, if I only had a mentor, I would know how to do all this stuff. [54:59] And it felt like another weight that I needed to carry, which I didn't. I had everything I needed. People were so kind and generous, but I didn't recognize it that way because we [55:08] Talk about it differently. [55:09] Thank you for sharing all that. I wasn't planning on going in this direction, but this is such important advice. [55:13] For, say, young women that are just getting started in the product, [55:18] Is there any advice you'd want to share to help them get to be the next AMI?

[55:23] oh, I mean, number one, no next zombie. They're going to be their next themselves. You know, like that is maybe the most important thing is like, [55:31] Everyone will only tell you their own story. That's all anyone can do. [55:36] But the thing that I tell people is like... [55:39] don't dampen [55:41] who you are and your strengths, just continue expanding. [55:44] Whenever you run into a problem, just add more to the things that you can do, the tools that you have, the way you can express yourself. Just keep on adding. [55:52] and growing. [55:54] And don't like shrink yourself ever. [55:56] I love that. [55:58] I want to move to a different topic. There's a few things I definitely wanted to touch on while we had our time together. [56:03] One is that I hear, and this is going to be a total tangent, but I think it's really important and I'm excited to talk about it. [56:08] I hear you're really good at setting goals. [56:10] and aligning incentives really well for teams. One of your colleagues told me, [56:14] You're best in class at building product orgs and figuring out how product orgs can best work with other teams. [56:21] I'm curious if there's any tricks or lessons you can share here about what you've learned about how to do this well. [56:27] Yeah, I mean, I think one thing is... [56:30] to try to decouple all the things we're trying to do [56:34] Sometimes when you give people direction, you're like, OK, everybody just go get revenue or, you know, everybody just go get GMV. And it seems obvious because that's the thing you have to do right as a company. [56:44] But, uh... [56:47] There's only a few places where you're guaranteed to get that and it's measurable and like you can do it. [56:53] And that leads to what I call toddler soccer.

[56:56] you know, where everybody just runs to the same surface or the same customer set or the same [57:03] like exact product where you can do this and it's measurable. And you end up like everyone's tripping on each other. Everyone's trying, like nobody really gets contact on the ball. There's no like coordination, you know? I have three kids and I've watched a lot of toddlers play soccer. [57:16] - Very good. - It's a very fresh metaphor. And instead, one of the things I like to do is just detangle, okay, as a company, [57:26] Let's think about our customers. Let's think about, like, all the things they're going to need in their journey. Let's think about, like... [57:32] how we will know, how we will match our own metrics to customer success. Let's play the entire feel. [57:39] Like, what would it look like if we could detangle it so that every... [57:43] team we had internally had a different goal [57:46] that ladders into like a goal framework [57:48] That's actually the thing that we need to do to solve the full customer impact. [57:54] And then you don't have the same swim lanes problem. You have like plenty of room for people to like [57:59] make progress on their lane they all know how they fit into the bigger picture [58:03] And it just opens up a lot more growth. [58:06] for every team and it makes sure that we're solving like the customer problem end to end. [58:11] Is there an example you could share to make this even more concrete from, say, WhatsApp or Facebook? [58:16] Instagram or anything like that where you can share some of these goals that you've like, oh, this worked out really well. I know it's probably private information and [58:23] Partly. [58:23] And that, it... [58:25] It might be trickier. I mean, maybe going back to like the GMV,

[58:28] example, like maybe instead of motivating everyone on GMV, you motivate them on GMV per surface and you divide up the surfaces or maybe you motivate them on [58:39] uh like actually different goals that underlie like when you think about gmv what are all the various engagements customer engagements that lead to gmv [58:48] Can you go on those input metrics and you go on [58:51] number of people who visit, number of people who convert, number of people who reorder, number, you know, et cetera. [58:56] rather than going strictly on the output. [58:59] So the core advice here is [59:01] Each team should have different goals that are kind of part of this metrics tree, the ladder up to revenue, GMV, something like that. [59:07] Whatever, yeah, the thing that best matches kind of the overall customer outcome that mirrors the company outcome as well. [59:14] Got it. And there's always this balance between it's like actually the best metric [59:17] versus like it's something they can move and understand and it's easy to [59:21] watch and it's movable and things like that. Yeah, and you have to have faith that it is [59:26] actually connected to that output metric. Like you don't want to create a metric that's disconnected just to make a team feel good. [59:33] It really does need to solve the customer problem, and that's reflected in companies' performance. [59:37] But you can usually break it down into smaller pieces. And I think that breaking down into smaller pieces and assigning those out to teams, that's really helpful. [59:46] Is there anything else along these lines of things you've learned about helping teams work together and [59:50] not [59:51] play toddler soccer. [59:53] Beyond having different goals that kind of all adder up to... [59:57] to the one that really matters.

[59:58] I think there's value in also acknowledging that [1:00:03] teams are going to have different incentives even inside a team like cross-functional teams on the same pod or whatever are going to have different incentives they're going to come in with different information they're going to have disagreements [1:00:15] And certainly like different teams inside a company or different like pillars inside a company, different products, they're all going to have different incentives. [1:00:23] And I think sometimes that feels like [1:00:26] something is going wrong. [1:00:27] when people disagree. [1:00:29] But actually, that's just a sign of, like, healthy tension and knowledge. I mean, the thing that makes tension healthy is, like... [1:00:37] one when you can acknowledge it and say, yeah, of course there's tension. You're bringing different information than I'm bringing. We should be disagreeing. Like that's not, [1:00:44] No one's a bad person. No one is like... [1:00:47] coming in with poor intent like [1:00:49] everyone's doing the thing they are supposed to do, and that is like a useful thing to do. [1:00:54] And then you have to agree on the outcome that you're aiming for. Like if you disagree on like what the company outcome is or what the customer outcome is, [1:01:00] Then you've got some structural stuff you need to work out. Normally you just have to escalate it. [1:01:05] But if you agree on like, [1:01:06] we're all trying to move this metric by changing this customer experience. [1:01:10] then all you're doing is like having a conversation about the best way to do that, using the different information that everyone is bringing. [1:01:18] And I think that's super important to just have as a rational, open, explicit discussion. [1:01:24] As opposed to trying to hide it. [1:01:26] or like pocket vetoing or something else, because you assume that like when someone disagrees with you that

[1:01:34] I don't know, there's something emotional wrong about it. [1:01:37] But it's fascinating. [1:01:39] Exactly. There's a piece of advice I once heard from the head of product at Airbnb once where we're trying to find the... [1:01:45] and reorg the business and try to figure out the best org. [1:01:49] And his advice, and something he realizes, there's never the best org, there's just [1:01:53] The best idea we have at the time with the here's the things we know are not going to be optimal about it. And let's build processes around that. [1:01:59] I think that's my take on like leadership in general. [1:02:02] Like, especially as you get more senior... [1:02:05] You can only make bad decisions. [1:02:07] You know, like at some point someone can bring you a problem, you can recognize a problem and you can like solve it. [1:02:13] And there's like so much happiness in solving that and like tying a bow around it. [1:02:18] But as you get senior, the only problems you'll see are ones that are fundamentally unsolvable, because otherwise someone would have solved it before they got to you. Right. [1:02:27] And so all you're doing is like choosing which branch of suboptimal you're going to put your name on. [1:02:34] and describing the principles you're using and the context and the fact that you know it's suboptimal. [1:02:40] but it's still the best thing. [1:02:41] I think that's a really hard thing is just to recognize and acknowledge that like, [1:02:47] increasingly people only see you do very make suboptimal decisions and from a distance they're just like why is that person only making bad decisions and it's because those are your only options all you can do is choose [1:03:00] the least bad, the best possible for the time, for the problem, that's consistent, that makes sense with the framework.

[1:03:08] And that's been like a tough thing to learn too. [1:03:10] You said somewhere that as you get more senior, you get worse at everything because the problems get harder. Yes, exactly. It's a kind of dark view of leadership, you know, where you do like, yeah, you can't fully solve problems. You have to say no a lot. People are unhappy with you. I thought, you know, as you get more senior, [1:03:27] Everyone listens to you and they like you and you just say a thing and then it happens and it's [1:03:32] That is not at all accurate. It really is. [1:03:36] Most of the decisions you make are [1:03:38] are not [1:03:39] are not gonna be perfect. [1:03:42] And I think I'm all about just normalizing and acknowledging those hard truths, because otherwise I feel like I'm failing. [1:03:50] And if I just know that something is normal, that it's part of the job, [1:03:53] then it's not me. It's just like, okay, this is a fact of the job that I have to get accustomed to if I want to have this kind of impact. [1:04:01] And there's something about having the impact, like, [1:04:05] being able to serve the customer, being able to be part of this team, there's something about it that is so worthwhile. [1:04:10] that it's kind of worth [1:04:12] being terrible at everything and being visibly terrible at everything, because that is the best way that I have to like have that kind of impact. [1:04:21] I think this is really important for [1:04:23] early ICPMs to hear because they see their CPO and [1:04:27] founders making all these decisions and they're like what the hell [1:04:30] That's a terrible idea. Why are they doing this? And, you know, what you're saying is just like it's the best. There's options are limited. [1:04:36] Yeah. And then nothing's going to be optimal.

[1:04:39] Yeah, like no org is optimal. It's definitely, you can optimize for the people you have, you can optimize for the products you have, you can optimize for the customers you have, you can optimize for the technology you have. [1:04:48] Those are like the options that you have. [1:04:50] Right? And in every one of those, you trade off everything else. [1:04:54] And so you're just like... [1:04:56] that you just have to know there's not going to be a perfect where all of it works. [1:04:59] And that's okay. Like that is part of the fun of it. That's part of getting to do this work is like continuing to improve. [1:05:06] But it's hard. It's hard when people... It's hard. Especially when you want everyone to think you're so great at everything. [1:05:12] This idea you mentioned of as a senior person solving people's problems, feeling really good. [1:05:16] Reminds me, we'll link to this, there's this Harvard Business Review. [1:05:19] article from like the 70s or 80s or something about monkeys on your back. Have you read this or heard of this? Oh, yeah, yeah, I did. [1:05:26] where it's basically like as a manager off of your back yeah people's backs right exactly like people come to you i mean here's my monkey please take it for me and feed it for me and take care of [1:05:37] And your job as a leader is to keep the monkeys on people's backs and help them figure out how to feed this monkey themselves. [1:05:42] It's a weird one. Yeah. Very visceral. [1:05:47] I want to talk about FAIR and your current role as a final section of our chat. [1:05:52] First of all, what was it like starting something completely new after 15 years at Meta, at the various properties of Meta? [1:06:00] Yeah, I mean, I was so lucky. I had such an amazing run at Meta. I got to work with amazing leaders, [1:06:08] Truly great products.

[1:06:09] And I came to FAIR [1:06:12] For the same reason that I've been anywhere, because I believe in the people and I believe in the mission. A lot of my family in India is in wholesale and local retail, and so like... [1:06:20] which is what FAIR does. And so it was also a very personal thing for me to do. I felt like I knew those customers. I'm a huge fan of small businesses. I got to work with a bunch of them. [1:06:28] in previous jobs as well. [1:06:30] I would say it like... [1:06:32] Coming to fair, I mean, one of the things I always think about is that when you, especially as you are more senior, ramping on anywhere feels terrible. [1:06:41] Because you expect to be [1:06:43] as good at your new job [1:06:45] as you were when you left your last job. [1:06:48] But you forget that at your last job, you were there for years. You had years to build up the vocabulary and the cultural context and the network and the product knowledge. [1:06:58] And then you're stepping in somewhere [1:07:00] Well, you know, none of that. [1:07:01] But you have the same expectations of yourself of being able to like, [1:07:05] have an impact and improve things and help your team. [1:07:08] And so I always just try to like remind myself it's going to take time. And what's most important is not for me to like, [1:07:16] try to come in and change everything immediately, but to learn enough [1:07:19] to be able to change things like 60 or 90 [1:07:22] or 120 days in the future. [1:07:24] And so that [1:07:26] Breathing helps a little bit. It was also really interesting because like, [1:07:31] Fair was entirely new to me. It was like a new business model. It was a whole new set of people. It was a whole new set of customer problems. And so like every interaction, I just like had to learn so much. I had to learn like, who is this person? How do they see the world?

[1:07:45] What's the problem they're talking to me about? What's the customer impact? I think. [1:07:48] So it was just like a dramatic learning curve, which I always really loved. [1:07:53] Maybe the last thing I'd say is like, [1:07:57] Again, I was super lucky at Meta. I think I always had this maybe deep-seated insecurity. [1:08:03] that maybe I was only good at meta. Maybe there was something about that network of people and how great they were and [1:08:11] how well I knew those products. [1:08:13] And maybe I wouldn't be that successful somewhere without that scaffolding. [1:08:18] And so leaving and being able to go somewhere else and like, [1:08:22] lead through change and a new place, a new customer set, a new business model. [1:08:28] Um, [1:08:29] That's also been really, really affirming for me, honestly. [1:08:33] Well, we have a lot of fans at FAIR from the people I know there, and so... [1:08:37] Clearly things are going well, at least as far as I can tell. [1:08:39] Something that I think is fair, definitely has in a lot of [1:08:44] companies have is a very product-minded visionary [1:08:47] founder. [1:08:48] And CPOs classically last like a year or two, and then they're like, "Oh, this sucks. The founder just tells me what to do, and what's the point of this role?" And it's so frustrating. [1:08:58] I'm curious just what you've learned about [1:09:00] At least so far... [1:09:02] about working with someone like that as a CPO, and not just being this middle person between what the founder wants to do, what the team is building. [1:09:09] Yeah, I mean, this is going to sound so naive, but I literally didn't know how important it was.

[1:09:15] for me to have such a great relationship with the CEO. [1:09:18] Like, [1:09:19] Because I always had great, you know, I was lucky I had great relationships with a lot of people at my previous jobs. I was like, oh, of course, like, it's going to be fine. Everyone's going to let me do what I want, whatever. [1:09:29] And I think I just got really lucky because Max is an amazing person. [1:09:33] CEO who's also super growth mindset and super open to like talking over ideas, even when they involve a lot of change. [1:09:42] So like, you know, when I was onboarding, one of the things I always like to do is write like [1:09:46] like a list of observations. I go out and talk to people. I have one-on-ones with like a lot of people and I write like, "Here's the themes that I'm hearing. Here's what's going well. Here's what's not going well." [1:09:55] And that's like a way for me to both [1:09:57] share what I'm seeing and like build some credibility and trust that way. [1:10:01] but also for people to give me feedback and be like, oh, you're wrong about this, just so I can kind of [1:10:04] correct my [1:10:06] starting a [1:10:08] like people point of knowledge [1:10:10] And with Max, I also wrote like a parallel document of hot tapes. [1:10:15] So like once a quarter or so for the first year, I write a document that was just like, [1:10:20] Hey, for sake of provocation, [1:10:22] If we wanted to fundamentally change a few things, here's ideas on what we could fundamentally change. [1:10:28] And Max, you know, [1:10:30] very, very well could have just been like, "Hey, can you please just run product?" Like, that's kind of you, Tom, can you please do that? And instead he and the entire rest of the executive team [1:10:42] we're like, yeah, let's step through these. Let's talk about

[1:10:46] which of these we should try let's talk about maybe context you don't have for why these don't make sense or why we don't do these [1:10:53] Um, [1:10:54] And that was such a gift. [1:10:56] You know, because... [1:10:58] I was able to build such a great relationship, like a trusting and complementary relationship with Max and the rest of the exec team. And also they took seriously... [1:11:08] The thing is that he really didn't have to [1:11:10] that, you know, [1:11:11] I have so much respect for that. And I think I got really lucky in just like finding a great CEO and exec team. [1:11:18] Is there anything you learn about this vetting process? Say you're [1:11:21] a founder looking for a head of product, a CPO, [1:11:25] Any advice for how they might vet [1:11:27] this person to make sure they are a good fit and will last. [1:11:31] What I'd say to everyone else is make sure you just have a mind meld with the CEO before you decide to take the job. [1:11:38] Like spend a day together, like understand how they think and how they operate and whether you're going to work together. [1:11:44] in a way that feels really high fidelity. [1:11:47] and like high trust and you're going to have room. [1:11:49] I mean, I'm not a founder, like by any stretch. And so when founders ask me, like, what should I look for in a head of product or CPO? [1:11:57] I see something a little bit different, which is... [1:12:00] Make sure that you really need the level of seniority that you are hiring. [1:12:06] I think that a lot of founders think [1:12:09] I need a CPO, I need a VP product, I need someone who's really senior. [1:12:13] When often the founder has a bunch of the vision and knowledge,

[1:12:18] And what they really need is somebody to build the product. They don't need somebody who's going to scale the team or build systems. [1:12:25] Like, they've got enough of that. And so that's a nice part of building that complementary relationship, where the founder and CEO know what they need, [1:12:34] And on the CPO side, they know that they can mind meld enough with the CEO to actually have an impact. [1:12:41] Last question. [1:12:42] You started as an intern in the PR department, I think, at Meta? [1:12:47] - Oh, I started in the temp, actually. - A temp, okay. Amazing. And then you ended up leading Facebook ads and then WhatsApp and many other things. [1:12:55] Can you share that story of just how you joined and how that happened? [1:12:58] Well, I had quit my last job. I knew that [1:13:02] I... [1:13:03] I knew that what I wanted to do was like be involved in all the wild stuff happening in Silicon Valley. [1:13:11] in [1:13:12] the mid 2000s. [1:13:15] So I quit my last job. I was kind of traveling around the world a little bit. I was living in New York. [1:13:21] an extremely blissful lifestyle. I was unemployed, I was doing whatever I wanted. It was some of the best time I've had in my life. [1:13:28] And eventually I needed a job, you know, like you do. But it was 2007. [1:13:33] and the only place I wanted to work was Facebook. [1:13:36] Like, [1:13:37] you could hear the way people talked about these products you know people would say [1:13:42] Facebook is more important to me than my car. It's like how I connect with the world, right? Like,

[1:13:48] It was such a magical product and you could hear that. [1:13:51] And... [1:13:53] I knew some people at the company. [1:13:55] and I convinced one of them to introduce me to everyone in the office. I made a trade. I said, [1:14:02] Fancy coffee at Coupa Cafe in downtown Palo Alto. [1:14:05] And in exchange, like just introduce me to everyone, everyone, you know, take me around the office. [1:14:10] And so everyone I met, I said, hey, I'm Ami, I really want to work here. I'll do whatever you need. [1:14:14] And the only call I got back was from the head of PR, Brandy Barker. [1:14:18] who said look we can't hire you like we didn't interview you we don't have head count [1:14:23] you're not really qualified. It was just like 10 reasons. [1:14:26] I was like, [1:14:26] Okay, thank you for calling me. And she said, but... [1:14:31] We need a temp to review our press releases. [1:14:34] So if you want to come join a temp agency, well, like, tell me to send you here. [1:14:39] And that's what I did. I moved out to California and I [1:14:43] slept on people's couches, and eventually they hired me full time. [1:14:47] And I didn't look back. [1:14:50] And now you're on Lenny's podcast. What a run. [1:14:53] It's interesting. This reminds me of another path to power rule from the Jeffrey Pfeffer podcast of networking is one of the best ways to... [1:14:59] acquire power in the world so it's interesting that now that seed is planted in my head anyway just to plug for that other episode also [1:15:06] Ami, is there anything else that you wanted to share or leave listeners with before we get to our very exciting lightning round? Sometimes people ask me who are working in product, like, what's the one thing they should do? [1:15:16] to like be successful at product.

[1:15:19] And maybe the thing I would say is like, [1:15:22] especially as an org scale or a company scales, there's just a lot of distractions that get between you and the customer. [1:15:30] And so the one thing that I would just advise everyone to do [1:15:33] It's just like... [1:15:35] Think about the customer, like talk to the customer, be an advocate for them. It's such a shortcut to everything else you need to do in order to be successful. [1:15:44] But it's so easy for that to get lost when you're thinking about, okay, how do I get alignment on my team? How do I figure out my roadmap? How do I... [1:15:52] convince people to join the company there's all these different things [1:15:56] But fundamentally, we're here to like... [1:15:58] create value for the customer. And the closer you can get to that, [1:16:02] I always found myself the happiest because I'm building that feedback group with the customer, but also more successful. [1:16:08] Let me actually follow up on this because this is really important and interesting. [1:16:12] There's a PM part of my brain of like, okay, but we also got to move some metrics. And sometimes that [1:16:17] metric isn't going to be moved by we need to do something specifically for the customer, but it's something that will help the business. [1:16:23] Is there anything there of just that balance of like, we need to move over this conversion metric. [1:16:29] versus like, let's focus fully on what does the customer want and need. [1:16:33] Any thoughts there? - Yeah, I think we often make things adversarial that are not actually adversarial. Like it is very rare for customer value to be different than company value on a long enough time horizon. [1:16:46] like there might be short term divergences, but really like to solve

[1:16:51] To create value for the customer, you got to be around as a business. [1:16:55] You know, like otherwise you are creating zero value for the customer. [1:16:58] And so I think really just starting with the like, [1:17:02] What are the end goals? [1:17:04] And where... [1:17:06] Where does stuff diverge in the very short term versus the medium term versus in the long term? It shouldn't. [1:17:12] and really thinking about where you are in the journey and how to place that. That always helps me. [1:17:17] because our metrics should absolutely be about long-term customer impact. It's very rare. [1:17:22] if those aren't, and then you're still able to be successful. [1:17:26] Comes back to our chat about metrics and how to do those well. [1:17:29] With that, we've reached our very exciting lightning round. Here we go. First question: What are two or three books that you've recommended most to other people? [1:17:39] "The Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes. [1:17:41] I almost never read nonfiction. I love Shonda Rhimes. Made an exception for this one. It was very... [1:17:48] It's about just saying yes to things and finding your voice when [1:17:52] you do feel like you're sometimes the first or the only or the different. [1:17:56] and what that feels like. And it was very life-changing for me, actually. [1:18:00] That's an awesome pick. No one's recommended that one yet. It reminds me of an episode of Matthew Dix. [1:18:05] who has a TED Talk about saying yes to everything. He just tries to say yes to everything, and his life is... [1:18:09] incredibly interesting as a result. [1:18:12] Next question. Do you have a favorite recent movie or TV show you really enjoyed? [1:18:17] I watch a lot of like... [1:18:19] witty workplace comedies from the mid-2000s. So I watch a lot of The Office or 30 Rock reruns. Things are just very comfortable that I...

[1:18:27] I already know everything, there's no surprises. [1:18:30] I'm not great with new stuff right now. [1:18:32] I hear they're bringing back The Office. There's like a reboot happening. Oh, really? Let's... [1:18:37] Wednesday. [1:18:38] Yeah, exactly. [1:18:40] Is there a favorite product you've recently discovered that you love? Either digital, physical, anything? [1:18:46] Maybe a physical product that I really like. I like... [1:18:50] I drink a lot of coffee and tea. [1:18:52] through the day and it's just like a, I don't know, like a calming ritual. And so I have like, [1:18:58] a Fellow's electric kettle. That was my big work from home upgrade. [1:19:02] Um, [1:19:03] So I have this electric kettle, I have a pour-over kit, I have these lovely, colorful mugs that I like. That has actually just made my day-to-day. [1:19:12] a lot better is just a little feeling of luxury. [1:19:16] I love that. I think we have that same kettle. I also drink tea during every episode. Oh, yeah. So we're on the same page. [1:19:22] Next question. Do you have a favorite life motto that you often think about, come back to share with friends or family and work or in life? [1:19:30] It is definitely not a motto. I feel like I know people who have mottos and I'm so impressed. I'm like, you know... [1:19:35] You know what you are. You know what you need. I am not that person, but I have [1:19:39] a piece of advice that someone gave me very early in my career. [1:19:43] Actually, it was Shmoth. He said... [1:19:45] You can either have [1:19:46] more energy or less ambition? [1:19:49] And I was like, whew, that's a little harsh. But also, like, really true. [1:19:54] And I think about that as another of my Roman empires. I think about it all the time.

[1:19:58] where I'm like, OK, if I want to have this kind of impact, [1:20:01] I'm going to have to do the work. I'm going to have to try new things. I'm going to have to feel uncomfortable. [1:20:05] And you know, sometimes... [1:20:07] I don't want to do those things. I don't want to do all of that work. And then I can't be mad if I'm not having the impact. Like those two just have to go together. I also have to get lucky in all these different ways. But like, [1:20:19] The two has to go together. [1:20:21] And that's been just like a good governor a little bit of how I think about what I'm putting in. [1:20:26] I love that quote. By the way, if people don't know what you're talking about when you talk about the Roman Empire, there's a... [1:20:31] meme on TikTok where [1:20:32] Somebody said that [1:20:34] Every man thinks about the Roman Empire at least once a week. [1:20:39] And it's made me think about what are all the things I think about repeatedly without really having trigger or reason? And there's still a lot. I don't think about the Roman Empire, though. That is not one of them. I also don't think about the Roman Empire. Something's wrong with me. [1:20:52] Okay, final question. You can blame your colleague Barr for this question. [1:20:56] He tells me that you are very good at jokes. You tell very good jokes. [1:21:01] Do you have a joke that you... [1:21:04] want to share by any chance. [1:21:05] - I love jokes. There was a year at Facebook where I posted a joke of the week to the company, and they're all terrible jokes. [1:21:15] Yeah, exactly. [1:21:17] Uh... [1:21:18] All right, here's my favorite joke. Great. [1:21:22] Uh, why don't sharks eat clowns? [1:21:26] What? [1:21:27] Because it tastes funny.

[1:21:30] I'll tell you one more, and you can choose which one. All right. No, we're not cutting anything. [1:21:35] One zero, seven to the eight. [1:21:38] What did the zero say to the eight? Something like us. Okay, no, I don't know. [1:21:42] Nice and felt. [1:21:44] Nice what? Belt. [1:21:46] Belt. [1:21:48] Oh, I got it. [1:21:50] Word is near us than in the end. [1:21:52] I get it. I get it. I'm going to tell you a joke. I just heard a stand up stand up stand up share. [1:21:57] How do you turn an egg into a vegetable? [1:22:01] I feel like if you put a letter on it, it'll turn into a vegetable name, but I can't think of the letter. I love that you're like really trying to analyze it. Yeah, yeah. Because I don't know if it's ever possible to actually get the answer. [1:22:11] Okay, so how do you turn an egg into a vegetable? Squash! [1:22:15] That is definitely my level of joke. Definitely. [1:22:20] They're like, this is for your kid. Go home and do this joke. [1:22:23] Ami, this was everything I hoped it would be. I'm going to read again the goal you had for this podcast. I 100% think we achieved it. [1:22:30] to be as authentic as possible and show that people can be pretty messy and imperfect at times, yet still be very successful. [1:22:36] I think exactly what this podcast ended up being. Thank you. [1:22:39] So much for being here. [1:22:40] Two final questions. Where can folks find you online if they want to reach out and learn more? And how can listeners be useful to you? [1:22:45] Oh, thank you, Lenny. It's been such a pleasure. I write a blog on Substack at [1:22:51] on meboard.substack.com. It's called The Hard Parts of Growth. It's just about [1:22:56] how even when you're working in great places with great people at great companies, sometimes things are hard and that's normal.

[1:23:02] And so you can find me there. I do the same. I cross post to LinkedIn. Find me there. And how can people be helpful to me? I don't know. Just by being great. [1:23:11] By being kind and nice and [1:23:13] making the world slightly better. Yeah, I think that's what we can all do. [1:23:16] I love that. [1:23:18] And I will link to your substack in the show notes if people want to check it out, and I'll recommend it. I haven't done it yet, but I'm going to recommend it for my substack. [1:23:25] Thank you, Lenny, so much. This was such a fun conversation. I really enjoyed it. I loved it. [1:23:30] Ami, thank you so much for being here. [1:23:32] Bye, everyone. [1:23:33] Bye.